Baby Names

It has been an decade now since the Indian Family started doing  R & D for naming a baby.  

Back to the days I remember, on 11th or 19th or any auspicious day the naming ceremony will be fixed by the family elders.  Mostly Baby's mom's wishes to name her baby wont get fulfilled.  The politics between in-laws and new mom will be in peak during this time.  90% time, mom will  / can be just a spectator. 

I remember few of cousin's naming reason.  

When I was expecting a brother, I got a sister.  That was at the age of 4, I wanted a boy to play with and wished to name him Karthik.  (God fulfilled that wish almost 20 years later ).  Same time, I got a cousin.  My grandma tried to name my cousin Karthik.  I started making tantrums and people took my word final and gave him a different name.  Ofcourse, they still adhered to their wish of naming him with God's Namakaranams.

My Grandmother was in Tirupathi during a birth of a cousin.  So he was named with one of the thousand names of Venkatachalapathy.

Next cousin name reasoning is related to Sabarimala.  

Girls in our family mostly got named same or related to the birth-star name, they were born in.

Every name had a reason and every reason had a valid argument.  

What did I do?  One of the pre condition for the marriage was to name my baby Kaarthik if I get a Son.  (Added a 'A' to make it unique) .  Second baby I left the choice to my better half.  50- 50 . I name one , You name one.

I have seen my cousins and friends do so much research in the names.  Every name they gave / decided had a meaning and had a strong reason.  The baby who bought happiness was named with related name.  Goddess name in modern formats.  The big difference today it is mostly decided by mother.  May be my aunts thought let their DIL's get the rights which they were denied as moms.

End of the day, it is the name we give to our babies remain with them life long.

Easy Name with less option of bullying is always parent's choice today.  

Whatever Name it is , as per today's trend, we want them to be unique.  Not Next  Newton or Next Einstein. 

We wish them to be FIRST "#NAME#".  

Learning Swimming at 35.

Getting your head into water difficult.  Isn't? The swimming coach didn't think so.  I was sure, it is difficult and I don't need to know swimming unless there is way to keep my head outside water.  No coach I knew,  knew that technique.

Even when we went to Ganges river, I took a bucket and mug for bathing.  

I waited and waited till I turned 35.  Now Vaishnavi wanted to jump into pool.  I was forced to take her to swimming class.  She was just 4 then.  I was scared to leave her in toddler pool even.  

As saying goes, child is father of man, she became my mother in teaching me swimming.

When I saw her putting her head into water effortlessly and jumping out with joy, I slowly started to try myself.  Her first exercise was to collect small pebbles from the toddler pool with her head inside water.  I kept seeing her how she does it.  I copied . Yes, I could collect 2 pebbles when she collected 5.   My confidence level started moving up and my fear coming down.  

It didn't seem that difficult like I thought.  It is a relaxing experience when you could float with your back.  You will never allow yourself to gain weight as you will want yourself to be in your best structure when you put on that swim suit.

Whenever we get into pool, Vaishnavi makes sure, I am in a safe 5 ft depth before she moves to deeper place.  Always encourages me with her words.   

I could swim across while she can swim the length.  

Lesson Learnt :  When you are afraid of something, do it, fear will vanish.

Lego and Kaarthik...

Who discovered Lego.. Blocks.. Creativity using Lego.. My Heart is brimming with Pride.  But my pocket is draining.  

Kaarthik was introduced to Lego after the McQueen Movie.  He saw McQueen picture on the cover and before even knew what is in that, he took it for billing.  Viswanath is modern parent who cannot say 'No' to kids.

Seeing the blocks first time, Kaarthik got upset that we cheated him with some bricks and not McQueen.  I sat with him, fit the blocks to create the McQueen.  There the journey of Lego started.

No matter whether we pay utility bills or rent, a part of salary went to Flipkart or Amazon for Lego.

Visits from EKart Logistics became a regular event.  Kaarthik started expecting Ekart Logistics people more than his school driver.

My fights with Viswanath will always start or end with .. if you can buy Lego for Kaarthik, why not this for me.  

Days passed, Months passed, Years passed, his craziness about Lego never went down.

Aswini or Suja whoever comes , they knew their nephew will like only Lego.  They made sure they got him one he liked most.  Thank you Gals.

Today, I am a proud parent seeing Kaarthik moved from the typical model maker to a Lego Architect.

Latest is his Rio Olympic Foot Ball Stadium.  

We had a board created exclusively for storing his Lego Blocks.  Maid doesn't know the importance, even if a small part is lost, we got to shell out again.   @Lego, please start your advertisement in @zeetamilzh during #SolvathellamUnmai.  My maid just feels, whatever said in that is true by heart.

Thanks to Brothers..

Raksha Bhandhan: thanks to the brothers who make our life more safer and secure .   I would like to share my best memorable moments with my brothers.

Senthil :  After kids r born we keep dreaming about next steps. I always dreamt of Kaarthik sitting in Senthil's lap for tonsure ceremony.   We did not invite anyone from Rasipuram family for that.  I was adamant to call Senthil at least. In-laws gave in(no choice for them 😂😂😂👨‍👩‍👧‍👧). After the tonsure when Senthil gave gift to Kaarthik , I was in full joy. I told my mom..this is precious gift i got today. Second time he gave me that happiness.  First was on my wedding.   (Note : will get one more from you soon ra )

Balaji:  My acquaintance with Balaji is far less when compared to Senthil and Sabarithan' My maiden drive with him to Rasipuram will be in memories forever as it was my first and last lone trip in that car.  Got to mention here I knew he could chat / pass funny comments only after his marriage.  I was always under the impression he is a quiet guy.

Sabarish : He has been a shoulder to lie on whenever I needed help.   Best thing I could remember is we used to ask him what u will get after u go for job when he was a kid. He used to tell my mom 'cheera than'. He kept that promise and got me saree with his first salary.

Balakrishna: Being a younger one not much acquaintance with him. But i always envy Preethi to have a such a caring brother. Cud sense that from her talks and pic.

(* Bro s typed for so long ra. Rakhi gift r u gonna to parcel it or give in person next time we meet.  So many sisters around here for share. So message me in private OK va.. **)

After So Long...

5 years no posts.  I was trying to recollect what I have been doing all these years.  What I have accomplished?  List seems to be productive. 

Failures are the stepping stones for success.  Yes only if you learn from mistakes.  My boutique business was doing pretty well.  I could even pay salaries for two people.  Where did I fail  to manage?  Time Management?  People Management?  Expectations ? External factors? May be everything combined.  I would say, I did not take more risk.  When many etailers like Flipkart, Amazon came in and accepted returns, I was not able to being a small vendor.  Should I have taken risk ?  I did not learn to identify the quality too.  Buying and Selling through online, sometimes feel cheap on quality too.  I was not able to kill my ethics.

What did I do after closing down my boutique ?

Following few Ayurveda and Siddha doctors in the various channels in the morning, made me analyse the nativity.  Our lifestyle.  Health.  As like everyone, I too have ailments.  The simple solutions given by the doctors helped me to overcome my ailments. In search of some of the plants and herbs they mentioned, I came across natural gardening.  (NOT organic).  

Gardening :
Today I have nearly 25 pots in my balcony.  The list is long too.  Curry Leaves, Turmeric, Bush Beans, Jasmine, Sangu Poo, Lemon, Pirandai, Drumstick, Onion, Garlic, Tomato, Brinjal, Chillies, Ivy Gourd, Aloevera, Betel Leaf, Rose, Nithaya kalyani, Henna, Garlic, Small Onion and Tulasi.  The list keeps growing.

I am not a successful gardener yet. I keep trying to get best of it.

What Gardening taught me?
It takes days and months to grow a veggie, but it takes seconds to throw it off.  Think twice before you throw your food.  It taught me patience.  Weeds grow faster than veggies.  If you want to be useful you got to be slow and steady.  If you grow fast, people will think you are weed, either they will pluck you out or destroy you.

I am back to IT.

இந்த பதிவிற்காக அங்கு ஒரு நல்ல உள்ளம் என் மேல் கோபம் கொள்ளும். பரவாயில்லை.
சரியாக 8 வருடங்களுக்கு முன்பு நிறைய காரணங்களுக்காக லட்சங்களில் பணம் கொடுத்த வேலையை வேண்டாம் என விட்டேன். அதற்கு பிறகு நடந்தது ஊர் அறிந்தது. இடையில் சில முயற்சிகள் நல்ல பலன் கொடுத்த முயற்சிகள் கை விடப்பட்டது.

இந்த சமுதாயத்தில் ஒரு பழக்கம் உண்டு.  ஒரு மனிதர் வெற்றியில் இருந்து சில படிகள் சறுக்கினால் நாம் நம்மை அறியாமல் மனத்திற்குள் மகிழ்ச்சி அடைவோம். அதை நான் அனுபவ பூர்வமாக உணர்ந்து உள்ளேன்.

திருமண விசேஷங்களிள் தொடங்கி  WhatsApp பதிவு வரை ஒதுக்க பட்டு உள்ளேன்.   நம்மிடம் busy என்று சொல்லிவிட்டு , புறம் பேசுபவர்கள் நிறைய உண்டு.

என் முன் you are inspiration for us என்று சொல்லி விட்டு என் வீட்டின் அருகில் வந்தால் கூட என்னை தவிர்த்தவர்கள் பல உண்டு.   நான் அறிந்து மனம் பொறுக்காமல் கேட்டால் பல காரணங்கள் அடுக்கப் படும்.   Stop Flashback...

12வருடங்களுக்கு பிறகு நான் மீண்டும் வேலை தேட ஆரம்பித்தேன்.  இதில் எனக்கு உடனடியாக உதவியது என் அருமை சகோதரி Sushma . Thank you dear. என்னை எனக்கு உணர்த்திய interview அது. நிறைய தேடல்கள். நிறைய அழைப்புகள். எனக்கு சில opportunity forward செய்து encourage செய்து , இப்படி பல உண்டு என உணர்த்தியது என் தம்பி மனைவி Janani. Thank you Janani.

என்னுடைய அனைத்து downfall ல் என்னுடன் உடன் இருந்து மேலே இழுத்து வந்தவர்கள் என் உடன் பிறந்த சகோதரி Aswini and உடன் பிறவா சகோதரி Ganthavalli. Special mention to my சித்திs and  appiyas (பெயர்கள் போட்டால் குடும்பத்தில் பல குழப்பங்கள் வரும. None is same forever. இன்று நமக்கு பிடித்தவர் நாளை பிடிக்காமல் போகலாம்)  and esp Narayana Periappa.


நிறைவாக ஒரு மாதத்திற்கு முன்பு நான் மீண்டும் ஆரம்பம் செய்த பணியில் முதல் மைல்கல்.   Yes.. My first PoC presentation got accepted and is the winning bid.  என்னை அறிந்தவகளுக்கு தெரியும் ஒரு மாதமாக நான் பட்ட பாடு.  

இதை நான் இந்த Blog சொல்ல  காரணம் I was waiting. now I am back.  யாருக்கு வேண்டுமானாலும் என் நிலைமை வரலாம். துவண்டு விடாதீர்கள். எழுந்து நில்லுங்கள்.  நீங்கள் உங்கள் வசப்படுவீர்கள்.  பிறகு உலகம் உங்கள் வசப்படும்.

உடன் company name என்று கேட்க வேண்டாம். இன்னும் சில படிகள் ஏறிய பின் அறிவிப்பேன்.

நான் எழுதிய பதிவில் உள்ளது போல் நானும் உங்களில் யாரையேனும் ஒதுக்கி இருக்கலாம். அதற்கு இந்த பதிவின் மூலம் மன்னிக்க கோருகிறேன்.

நமக்கு வந்தால் தானே காய்ச்சலும் தலைவலியும் தரும் கஷ்டம் தெரிகிறது.  என் மனவலி இல்லை இந்த பதிவு.  என் வெற்றி பற்றிய தம்பட்டம். Even a mountain can't stop a strong river.