Many sayings are there about Forgetting and Forgiving. To err is Human, To Forgive is divine.
இன்னா செய்தாரை ஒருத்தல் அவர் நாண நன்னயம் செய்து விடல்.
Can we be really like this? In today's world do we have the tendency to forgive and forget people who did bad to us? For forgiving and forgetting we need to be more tolerant. The tolerance level for today's generation is far less compared to the previous generation.
After years of inability to accept people who did bad to me or bad mouthed about me, I realised if I keep avoiding, I will end up having only few relationships. For a person like me who love to be surrounded by friends and relatives, this character will not help.
When you want to get something, the subconsicous mind finds a way to take you there. I have read this poem written by William Blake in school. This is a refresher.
I was angry with my friend:
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe:
I told it not, my wrath did grow...
Analysis about this poem varies from people to people. Simple explanation is once you express your anger, it ends there and you don't carry it forward. If not, you carry forward the wrath and lead to destruction of yourself and the foe.
I tried expressing my point of view at the right time, to right people using right words. I did homework before I told my anger. Believe it worked and my circle of relation keeps increasing and I am happy about it.
Again remember right time, to right people with right words is most important otherwise again same cycle of hatred will continue.
This is the right topic for discussion i was waiting for. Recently we are having lot of discussions on the same everywhere. Many people feel Ctrl + Alt + Del helps a lot. But i personally believe its very dangerous. Because people tend to Ctrl + Alt but they dont delete. As akka says, when we are angry we must think how it should be expressed and tell it. This is very easy with friends but difficult with new people. The only advise our team receives from my boss is "Tolerate, tolerate & tolerate". People should be trained to have friendly discussions with team (family alo) at regular intervals to avoid haunting memories. Soft skills are very important nowadays without which we would end up no where. There is no use if someone comes up and says that they have "high expectations" when you are frustrated to the core or when there is nothing more that you can do. Personally i believe a person can have high expectations on himself and can set any level of ambitions but not on others.
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